God, no shit.
Thankfully I think my circle of friends and musicians is of a high enough caliber in both ability and SENSIBILITY that I have seen very little of this kind of crappy nonsense, and if I had I would have gone very far in a boot wearing expedition up someone’s ass.
These people are all actually PEOPLE, and if you think that they are elevated above being human because of the heights they’ve reached in their careers, your ignorance is profound and your imagination is challenged and stunted….it’s sad to understand what a monochrome blur your life must be like….
Having worked with 3 of the Hotel California-era Eagles, I’ll tell you one thing for certain, they are ALL the best version of the thing they are that will ever be, Glenn the best Glenn Frey, Joe the best Joe Walsh, and Don the best Don Felder that there will ever be, and that’s NOT nothing.
2 of the best guitar players/songwriters in popular music EVER, and one of the best singer/songwriters in popular music EVER, with a body of music that has reached into the lives of almost every person in Western culture on an almost daily basis, to the point that when you hear the music YOU know every damn word….?!?!?! Music YOU may not even like, sure, and that’s fine, but you gotta admit when it has that kind of impact across the geography and timespan that it has, it’s fucking GREAT, you just don’t get it.
That’s not nothing.
These guys can play their asses off, write their asses off, sing their asses off, arrange/record/produce their asses off, and in Glenn’s case LEAD his ass off leading one of the biggest bands EVER….they are BAD ASSES, all of them!!.
Go do THAT, and then talk shit…I’ll wait….
But….they’re all ALSO just people, with their foibles, demons, ticks, itches, relationships, children, problems, illnesses and now even death, just like anyone, doing anything.
I don’t know, I read that piece and realized maybe I’ve been kinda glossing over it whenever I see someone slagging about this, knowing that it’s just ignorant childish creepiness that’s not worth engaging one on one…had this reaction, felt like saying something…
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. As a musician it’s tricky to understand what we do in the context of money and meaning. Lately I’m finding it much more useful to think of it in terms of how well I do it, and how much it brings to others.
In that context, playing for not much money in some bar just kinda anywhere starts to take on a lot more meaning and value. People are enjoying their time together watching others do something they can’t really do, in a setting that allows and/or validates their feelings….being brought together to feel something that can’t be had alone at home with your tv and your bottle, it’s GOOD for people to do that, and not be alone.
People come up all the time to share how they feel about what they’ve just seen/experienced, and I think we as musicians forget what a gift that is….that they have felt something so powerfully that they need to come up and tell us about it, even to a total stranger who just stepped off the stage, even at the risk of being rebuffed or ignored…. and it’s hard to just walk up to someone and bare your soul, even a little, but they trust us to hear them, because they know we MUST understand, because we just did it!
Yes, maybe we hear it all the time, but for them, it’s special, and it’s NOW, and it really matters to them.
It has nothing to do with money, it has nothing to do with MOST valuations that are recognized as valid measures of what we do, but maybe it’s the most important thing of all, and we should pay a lot more attention to it, I think we would be happier and maybe even better people for it.
I’ve been wanting for a while now to use this very cool little app on my iPhone called Splice, and today this event happened and I decide to use it as a test case.
This whole thing was kinda sad actually, all the crows raising hell outside and the cat being driven off by what I imagine were the parents of the trapped crow…then all the other crows coming around and the feel of the whole thing changing drastically…you wouldn’t believe how creepy it got, really fast….The Birds movie etc…there was a lot of them you can’t really see…
“The test of our progress is not whether we add more to the abundance of those who have much, it is whether we provide enough for those who have too little.”
I think we’re failing this test….miserably.
Earlier I was reading a post from Geico about Road Rage, and realized I had some opinions about it….
Here’s some of my thoughts on this….
1) If you’re being passed on the right, you’re in the wrong lane.
Move over, you’re being controlling and selfish. The syndrome is called “Petty Tyrant”. If you have THAT little control in your own life that you need to exercise that very minimal amount of control over complete strangers in a very dangerous and provocative way, I’d suggest looking at your life and why you feel so powerless to control it.
Start by recognizing WHY you’re taking that action so needlessly, and endangering yourself and everyone around you….THAT is where you need to take action, not by enforcing your power over others needlessly.
You know that guy who struts slowly through the crosswalk as the light changes etc, all the while staring at you, silently challenging you to do something about it, because the law is on his side no matter what the circumstance? That guy who has NO other power over others in his life, EXCEPT for that moment. Yeh, well now you’re THAT guy….
2) If you can’t see a good bit of road between you (usually 2 seconds of it technically) and the car in front of you, it doesn’t matter WHY you’re doing it, you’re WRONG, and are now doing something that should be considered assault, just as it would be assault if you went up to someone on the street and told them you were going to kick their ass. You’re endangering everyone in that situation, including all the drivers in the area around you, no matter their involvement in your attack….
No matter how “RIGHT” you think you are, if after the wreck you caused you saw the shattered body of a child (maybe my beautiful 7 year old) lying on the freeway crushed, would you feel justified, or correct in your choice that day? Would that “statement” that you made to the “wrong” driver in front of you be worth that? Is that child’s life, or any other life that your actions may take from them, worth any amount of “rightness” on your part?
3) Guy in the fast lane going slow because it’s your right and by GAWD you’re going to stop those damn speeders from slicing down the road like Freeway Huns, and how dare they think they have the right to make you move…?
YOU’RE NOT A COP!!
It’s not your responsibility or right to exert ANY control at ALL over anyone else on the road whatsoever!! Get over yourself and move out of that lane, you’re pissing on the legs of people you will never see again, and antagonizing god knows who for what? To be RIGHT?!?!?
You’re NOT right!! You’re just a selfish jerk thinking you have the power of the law on your side and by God you’re gonna use it…..SHUT UP AND SIT DOWN -YOU’RE NOT A COP!!
If the situation seriously demands an action, CALL THE REAL COPS and let them handle it. YOU? Stop starting problems where there is none.
4) Guy tailgating that guy above who has the audacity to think that HIS little Napoleon complex should be allowed to affect YOUR precious day with his petty garbage so you’re gonna show him and make him feel so threatened by your proximity and force of will and “rightness” that he just MOVES over because…..what? Because he’s AFRAID?!?!? Is that what you’re thinking, you’re going to SCARE him out of your way?
So you’re THAT guy….the bully who beats people up all day every day when you don’t get your way? That douche who cuts in line at public events because you’re big? That guy who shuts down dissent from others by making it clear your next sentence won’t contain good facts or clear counterpoints to what you’ve just been presented with, instead your next sentence will contain a FIST, and argue with THAT pipsqueak!
So yeh, you’re NOT a cop EITHER….and if you told a REAL cop your issue with the person you’re tailgating he’d tell you to back the hell off, or YOU’LL get a ticket, because YOU are wrong.
So yes, there are all kinds of studies showing the power the primitive sections of our brains have over us, but here’s the thing – WE’RE NOT ANIMALS! We have evolved sufficiently to do one very crucial thing that is different than what pure neural programming instinctively does in animals, and that is that we can CHOOSE our next move. Take that nanosecond of choice, and use it to further the species’ evolution!
Let freeway Darwinism have it’s effect….but don’t let it affect YOU.
Grow the Fuck up, and try being decent on the freeway.
(Full disclosure – I’m a freeway werewolf, but I’m working on it.)